ok so i'm 21 and i am sociophobic .. started around 16 and has become worse progressively since .... i just graduated from university .. i basically cant communicate in any capacity with people .. i find it extremely hard .. from talkin on the phone to askin someone a simple question ... i have no friends .. no one in my life at all ... i find it hard to leave home ... i have no job because i cant even make a phone call to enquire about a job .. and well you can imagine what happens at interviews ... what do i do? i cant go on livin like this ... im totally lonely ....
i understand from what you said that you're not only lonely, but also living in fear.
normal, is different in everybody's opinion. some people just say that they will feel normal if they lose some weight, get top in the school, have bigger eyes etc.
and Your normal here is to be able to communicate effectively with other people.
there are ways to do it. firstly, you couold get a pet. it appears that you're 21 and you must be able to control what you want in your life. but you can just ignore it too, because sometimes, the people we live with won't agree on it (high maintenance), or you don't like pets personally. if you do get a pet, talk to it. tell it stories, tell it about your day, who you met up with and so on. then you'll gradually find it easier to talk to other people, just treat them like a cute ball of fur!
then you cuold but up some books. i recommend Andrew Matthews. you could still read Being A Happy Teen, altho you're already 21. or being happy, follow your heart, making friends, whatever attracts your attention. i promise they'll help you through all these.
you could attend some community group meetings or charity fair. you can meet up with more people and slowly get use to it. i know you'll probably be terrified at the thought of that, but hey, get over it!
that's basically everything, just e-mail me if you need more help. i can be your friend. or IM me, either way.
I agree with Sandy. This degree of phobia is crippling. The good news is that phobias can be eliminated by Cognitive Behavioral Thinking. You can learn it from a book; the difficult part is applying it. This is why it's very useful to have a therapist.
Have you tried to get professional help? You should really think about it. It sounds really serious and professional help might be key. How is your relationship with family? If there is someone in your family you're close to perhaps they can walk you step by step. I'm no expert but perhaps if you go to a club and dance the night away, there's no need to talk with all that loud music. :-D Hope this helps, and good luck!
First, there is no normal. We all have problems that we don't let the world see, some of us are just better at hiding it than others. Two things that help me are:
Nothing lasts forever and
This too shall pass.
Learn to accept yourself just the way you are and you will begin to notice a difference in your life. Live an honest, authentic life...just the way you are. You are a valuable human being, no more or no less loved than anyone else on earth.
Take baby steps. Enjoy and appreciate every day that you are given to live. Don't try to change, but accept that you have limitations and be open to learn new ways of looking at your life and you will soon realize that you are just fine the way you are.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.
Dude yo have social shyness, fix it (through professionals, self help,), and get on with your life.
Sounds like anxiety,or social disorder.I would suggest to see a dr. There are meds.for that.I have similar problems.Don't like social functions.Can't handle crowds.Mine comes from childhood.Your not alone.It can be lonely.You may just be different.If you are.Embrace it.It will go easier.Mean while check out anti anxiety meds.I know how it can be.Good luck.God bless. : ).
Please you do not have to live like this. You need professional help and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Be ashamed if you allow yourself to continue to live like this. There is therapy and there is medication that can help you. Please find help. Every city has a crisis hot-line you can get the number from information. They can help you and refer you to the right people for help. Please do this!
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